How Pre-Marriage Counseling Can Help Strengthen Your RelationshipIdeas and Inspiration Sachi
Pre-marital counseling is a therapy undertaken by couples before getting married to help prepare themselves for marriage by identifying and addressing any potential issues and conflicts that may arise later in a marriage. The counseling sessions entail couples talking through any existing issues in the relationship, dealing with any issues that may arise post-marriage, managing finances, expectations, and just about anything couples need direction on.
How Pre-Marriage Counseling Can Help Strengthen Your Relationship
Taking pre-marital counseling helps couples resolve existing issues in the relationship, strengthen the relationship by improving communication, helping set realistic expectations, encouraging open and honest discussions, providing problem-solving tools, developing an understanding of roles and responsibilities in the relationship, etc. which as a result help build a strong foundation for marriage and increases the likelihood of a successful marriage.
1. Understanding Each Other's Expectations
Having expectations from partners is normal, however, sometimes having too many or unrealistic expectations can become overbearing and cause conflicts. Also, couples may sometimes enter marriage with different expectations and are unaware of the differences in their expectations till they get married, which can cause serious issues later. Pre-marital counseling can help couples identify their expectations for the marriage, set realistic expectations, and healthily communicate them. Undertaking counseling provides couples with a structured and safe environment to discuss their expectations from the marriage and also find ways to compromise or come to an amicable agreement.
2. Communicating Effectively
Communication is the key to a successful relationship. Being able to communicate with your partner openly is pivotal to building a strong foundation for a marriage. Partners being able to communicate with each other effectively is one of the most important contributing factors to a healthy relationship. Communication is a two-way road and requires a good listener. And that is where sometimes the issues can arise. Also, some people find it difficult to communicate their feelings to their partner because of various reasons. Also, many times communication can go off-track with no resolution in the end. And in such situations, couples are likely to either fight, flight, or freeze. Undergoing pre-marital counseling can help couples talk openly and healthily express their feelings. This is done by teaching couples effective and healthy communication skills, like attentive listening, expressing emotions and feelings, resolving conflicts calmly, etc.
3. Resolving Conflicts
Very often couples will find themselves tangled in arguments over money, communication, chores, jealousy, etc. Having arguments is an inevitable part of relationships and completely normal, however, it is important to know how to manage conflicts effectively. Conflicts can help you understand your partner on a deeper level, and with the help of counseling, you can equip yourself with the tools to resolve the conflicts healthily and make your relationship thrive. A counselor can help you identify the root of conflicts and help you develop the skills to navigate conflicts.
4. Building a Stronger Relationship
Pre-marriage counseling is not just working towards one thing, but it’s a combination of working through different elements that lead to building a stronger foundation, and a successful and happy relationship. Undertaking pre-marital counseling makes you fully aware of the reality and challenges faced in a marriage, and how to overcome them effectively.
Pre-marital counseling also fosters intimacy between couples by encouraging them to be open and vulnerable with each other. Being open and vulnerable with each other also helps couples understand each other on a deeper level and identify the strengths, weaknesses, shortcomings, and expectations of their partners. The process of counseling also involves teaching couples to appreciate each other's differences and similarities along with exploring what they want from each other, what changes are needed, what stays the same, etc. Pre-marital counseling equips you with the tools to communicate effectively, understand each other on a deeper level, navigate through difficult times, increase intimacy, reach resolutions and so much more, which in return will help you foster a healthy and strong relationship.
Long gone are the days when counseling was stigmatized and looked down upon. These days couples are encouraged to take counseling even if they feel things are great in their relationship. Counseling is like therapy in a safe, secure, and structured environment where you can be yourself and pour your heart out without being judged, and in return receive unbiased guidance. Counseling will help you lighten your heart, get directions if you are feeling lost, teach you to embrace the imperfections of your relationship, reignite the lost spark in your relationship, equip you with tools to have effective communications, calmly resolve conflicts, and most importantly, help build a strong foundation for your marriage.
Edited & Photo Sourced: Neha Garg Ahuja